It's been a long time...and breaking up isn't hard to do.

Well, this fall I've found myself seriously reflecting on how I've backed myself into being overwhelmed by being nice, saying yes when I think I should, and not really pursuing my dreams. I miss singing more often, songwriting with Tommy more often, dancing. I really miss partner dancing from hand-dancing to the Lindy to salsa. I miss having a man in my life. Things have been brewing here and there but no real fire happening. I got my heart broken about 5 months ago and took all the time since discovering just how resigned and cynical I had gotten about being in a relationship. Finally got to the bottom of it recently and time to return to Success with the Opposite Sex. Why? Because I got intimacy when I was or was not in a relationship and that was the whole point. Keeping the conversation of intimacy alive for men and women to share regardless of your marital or relationship status. Humans need love and intimacy all ways.

Found this great series of YouTube videos under the title TALES OF MERE EXISTENCE. How true it is when it comes to most relationships for singles and for many married folks.

Tales Of Mere Existence "How To Break Up"

I started dating again. I am learning that dating is about one's own commtiment to being fulfilled. Not whether or not the person you are with fulfills you. It's also about insuring you are both fulfilled moment to moment. I am starting to date again. I am learning that dating is about being happy and having fun. I realized from my first date back on the scene...I've not been being as fun as I know myself to be in any other context. Time to make it happen. Bring out the positive flirtatation device. My true self be.